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Anxiety of those in the FD interest.

Started by sgtjdusar, January 01, 2016, 11:05:24 PM

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To be a money slave or a financial dominant in the true sense of the term requires a unique personality.  Both Financial Dominants and Money Slaves can suffer from bouts of anxiety and even depression and even maybe a feeling of low self worth within the FD interest about issues within and involving the FD Interest.

A Financial Dominant may have an overwhelming concern that her money slave is not disclosing income or assets.  Maybe the FD may think her Slave is secretly sending money to another FD.  Maybe the FD may think her slave is secretly communicating with another FD.  That anxiety may get even worse if the money slave is communicating with another FD and that other FD is targeting the Money Slave seeking that money Slave to be a slave to her.  Encouraging the Money Slave that his present FD does not meet his expectations or pointing out flaws with that FD.  These efforts can be subliminal or even very direct.  For some FD's the need to control a number of Money Slaves may be overwhelming her sense of ethics that she would not take a Slave of another FD.  Lets face it.  For some FD's they have that massive need of control and that need can be overwhelming for some. 

Financial Dominants may also have anxiety over the Money Slave cannot seem to find a better job or income.  Granted, to be a True FD a True FD is more interested in the control and obedience and the service, loyalty and dedication her slave gives her.  However, the FD may believe her slave is underpaid and wants him to be more assertive to receive promotion or she may believe her slave should be higher paid.  Or maybe even the Slave cannot find a job.  Those issues can also cause anxiety for a FD.

Another anxiety is that FD's may not be able to relax due to transfer methods.  For example did the Slave transfer her money to the correct account?  Why is it taking so long to get her money?  Very real anxiety for a FD.

For Money Slaves.  At least for me, one of my biggest anxieties is a lack of communication.  Other reasons for anxiety may be:    Why does not my FD respond to me?  Is my FD being honest?  Is my FD misleading me?  Is my FD in reality just another fake FD? 

Another anxiety a money slave may face is:  Does my FD appreciate my efforts to serve her? 

What about the feeling: 

1.   I do not feel as though my FD knows how to be a FD.

2.  I feel as though my FD lacks the ability to fully grasp what it means to be a FD.

3.  She is disengaged, indifferent, out of touch and/or she does not understand me. 

I know those feelings all too well.  I have been involved and in contact with probably at least 60 FD's in my lifetime  (Granted, maybe many were not True FD's).  I know what it is like to be in service to a FD and to have a nagging feeling the FD does not know what she is doing.  She cannot even manage her own affairs.  How can I expect her to be able to own me and make those necessary ordering of my own life so I can feel like a Real Money Slave?   

I have seen very indifferent FD's.  Who are reality Lazy.  Some may even have a sense of control  but, thy may be so lazy they have no interest to do anything.  Except maybe stay home and play video Games all day long.

Maybe the FD only interest is in her own personal visual surroundings.   

I for one as a White Slave with a high preference for Black and Non White FD's have found that seems to be a big problem among many Black FD's.  I am only referring to my own personal experience with the Black FD's that I have encountered.  So do not take my description as a stereotype.  Just in my own personal observations almost without exception of the FD's I have come in contact with who are Black always seem to be very indifferent.  They have little interest for anything outside of their own personal sphere of influence.  They hate travelling or visiting anything such as natural forms.  Have a a very low appreciation of art and have almost no or very little interest t in adventures and viewing new things.  I of course am only referring to those Black FD's I have associated with.   However,  I seen some of the writings of other Black FD's and I have seen those indicators as well.   To me, being a White Slave with a high preference for Black FD's and being that I have a very active imagination and a high sense of adventure and a need for viewing the "Good" cause me some level of high anxiety.  Especially seeing that I see a high degree of indifference and unenthusiastic, and disengaged Black FD's. 

Another anxiety is communication.  I have been labeled by some FD's as being "Needy"  Even a past FD of mine accused me of being "needy" on at least a couple occasions.  That is another issue that causes me anxiety.  When a FD uses the term; Needy as labeled to a Money Slave to me means the relationship is going to end very soon.  Communication in a FD relationship just like any other non FD relationship to be secure and successful must involve open and accessible communication.  Granted some Money Slaves might be overwhelming for a FD .  Even still as soon as the FD considers her Slave to be "Needy"  the relationship will soon die or should just end then and there.    I personally do not think I am "needy"  I just need a FD who can be receptive to my reports to her, be accessible, answer and reply to communication.  As well the FD should have genuine interest in the well being of her slave.  If the FD does not enjoy communicating with her slave she might as well just end the relationship then and there. 

Those are some things I think can cause anxiety within the FD Interest.

But how do you fix it?  How can someone involved in the FD interest find relief from anxiety?

If  the first issue is that if your Slave or FD causes you anxiety probably best to let the FD or Money Slave know it.  If the FD or Money Slave is not willing to relieve the anxiety maybe a change of relationship may be the best option.  Maybe the two of you are not compatible?  Maybe you as a Money Slave overwhelm the FD and the FD feels you are burden?  So maybe best to end the relationship. 

Granted,  for us Money Slaves we have an advantage in the FD interest.  Hundreds of claimed FD's are out there.  Granted almost all are fake FD, Scammers and Frauds.  However, with a little bit of research and maybe some effort we generally can easily find a available FD.  Or at least a FD that might attract our interest. It may take a transfer just so the FD may think you are serious.  But generally we as money slaves have that little bit of advantage.

For FD's Maybe try to get to know your Slave.  Know his interest.  Know what makes your sick tick.  If it is reasonable and something you can also enjoy maybe your relationship can be successful. 

I as a money slave enjoy the appreciation of my FD and when I know my FD is sincerely happy with my efforts then it motivates me to be even more willing to go all out for my FD.

If your slave overwhelms you or you feel your slave is too much work maybe you should end the relationship.  The money no matter how much it is if the relationship is too difficult for you the best option may be to tell your Slave or prospect that you are not interested in their service.  In reality, most Slaves are at least average in intelligence.  If they know or even sense you are not serious about being a FD and are principally only concerned about the $ do you really think your Slave would stick around after a new, prettier FD shows up?  No need to subject to a future hardship.  Just end it.  Tell the Slave you are not interested is the best option. 

JD