@OP I think you make a great point. Safe, sane and consensual should still apply to findom and online BDSM interactions. With ethical Mistresses it still does. Sometimes we Dommes have to be the ones to stand up and say, "Hey, what you are doing is not a healthy form of acting out your fetish."

With that being said, it is important to also understand that some of these guys let their dicks get them into predicaments which they will then attempt to lie their way out of once they have cum all over themselves. They love using their kids and rent as an excuse to get out of agreements they made.