Author Topic: Looking for control (Read 22862 times)

Crasdo · « **on:** July 11, 2015, 03:01:17 AM »

Hey, I'm new here, but I've always kind of fantasized of having a woman take complete control of me. I really like findom and chastity, especially when combined. The idea of having to pay a dominant woman just for the right to stroke myself is such a humiliating and demoralizing idea, but the helplessness turns me on! It sounds weird, but hopefully I can find a woman here who is interested in the same things and would like to control me. Please message me if that is you!

MistressBella · « **Reply #1 on:** July 11, 2015, 02:58:19 PM »

Kind of fantasized? LOL

Sounds to me like you HAVE fantasized.
You think paying for the PRIVILEGE to wack off is humiliating and demoralizing? Just to be abundantly clear, playing with yourself isn't a right, it's a PRIVILEGE, as it's pleasure. Pleasure is one of the privileges of life that your Domme will clearly take away. Over a period of time with some of my slaves, I also make them pay for the RIGHT to have bathroom privileges. This usually occurs once a week.

Helplessness turns you on because you're weak. May not on the outside, to your friends, family, co-workers and peers... but... On the inside it kills you, you're melting inside.

Crasdo · « **Reply #2 on:** July 13, 2015, 11:01:16 PM »

Heh, ok you got me, I have definitely fantasized about it in exquisite detail...

And yes, you are correct, for a slave it is a privilege to whack off. I think of it as a right because for normal men it is, and it always has been for me. But the more I fall into the realm of submission, and especially if I find a Domme, it becomes a privilege that I must earn.

You're probably correct about me being weak on the inside. For as long as I can remember I've thought about being a slave, about having someone above me to decide what I can and cannot do, and what I must do for them to make their life easier. The idea just feels right to me and turns me on, and now I'm finally here, taking what I hope will be the first step to filling that hole in my life.

MistressBella · « **Reply #3 on:** July 14, 2015, 03:40:52 AM »

Good for you! Admitting the obvious isn't always easy.
Jerking off is a privilege, as I said... Kind of like driving. Many people feel as though it is a right... But on the contrary, it's a privilege.

For me, I like to masturbate while driving sometimes...lol
Two privileges. For a Mistress, such as myself and many others, it becomes a right to not only please herself, but to make her slave's condition worsen. Weaken. Wilter.

I find the psychology interesting, between slave and Mistress. Even just the aspect of the slave. It's intriguing, which is why I take the time to get to know them. Most "Slaves" who knock on my door have different expectations than I. You see... I prefer to build a relationship. Make the bond. It's important to have that connection, because without connection, where do you think the relationship is going to go?

These said "Slaves" often have misconceptions regarding what this realm is about. They just see it as a peep show or a session with a cam girl taking her clothes off. There is where I have an issue.

I, for one, do NOT provide any teaser or nude cam shows. I am not a Cam Girl working it for the camera hoping that I can drain their pockets because if the size of my tits, or the tightness of my rear-end. I am not a slave to the "Slaves".

The slave that I choose are ones who fully understand my way. They are strictly my entertainment. No more. No less.

What expectations would you have for your Mistress?
When did you realize you were a submissive, and what was the first thing you did to try to ease the curiosity?

Crasdo · « **Reply #4 on:** July 14, 2015, 12:05:01 PM »

Jerking off definitely becomes a privilege that the Mistress controls. If many people feel as though it's a right, it is because they have always been able to do it whenever they want. When I am not in chastity or controlled at all, I still feel it is a right. But I've been self-locked in chastity for about four days as I type this, and it currently is most-definitely not!

I also find the psychology interesting, although I've never personally experienced true submission. It's disappointing that so many "slaves" only see you and other mistresses as a hopeful peep show. One of the reasons that chastity intrigues me so much is that even if I am just in the mood for a peep show, once I close the lock it all changes. Short-term, I physically cannot jerk off, so the peep show loses its purpose. Long-term (really just after a day or two of going to bed without relief), my feelings and desires morph. I don't fantasize about stroking to a peep show anymore. I fantasize about seeing a Woman looking down at me, smiling or laughing at what I just did to please her, while my cock goes ignored, maybe even roughly compressed into its little cage. Sure I get horny and really want to stroke (as I do now!), but it's truly a secondary urge to pleasing her. I once had an online keyholder who gave me permission to orgasm after about ten days, but her message seemed like she was just doing it out of pity for me. I remember my hands shaking as, instead of just stroking right away, I typed up a message begging her to please deny my for longer if that is what would make her happier. She let me out right then anyway, but I surprised myself that day--begging for more suffering if that was what would make her happy!

I definitely respect that you do not provide ease or nude cam shows. It helps reinforce the feeling of submission when the Domme can see the slave in any way, whenever she wants, but the slave can only see the fully clothed Domme, and on her own terms.

As far as my expectations, I'm still not entirely sure because I've never had a complete owner or Mistress. I think I would desire daily communication and maybe some kind of assignment to make her happy. It wouldn't have to be a teasing or paying assignment, sometimes maybe telling a story or fantasy. The other thing is upfront expectations for what is required of me (regular tribute, any special tributes for stroking or similar, etc). I've found a lot of FinDommes online seem as fake as a lot of the slaves and just want to ride their slaves for an easy dollar. I guess I would want to go slow and, at least at first, have some sort of known system for what we're both getting into.

I've been submissive for a long time, I think I really noticed it with my first girlfriend who would sometimes ballbust me, or practice self-defence moves. It was always more fun than sexual for her, but it turned me on how easily she could send me to the ground or make me beg.

Thank you for taking the time to write to me, Mistress Bella, I look forward to reading your response (and will probably be thinking about it all day at work!).

MistressBella · « **Reply #5 on:** July 14, 2015, 01:04:59 PM »

Only four days? lol That's nothing! lmao
Perhaps you need to watch some lesbian domination porn or something to spice things up a bit. It's always a lot more fun when you're on edge...lolol

It doesn't matter how much time elapses. The only way permission MIGHT get granted is if a "cum tax" of my choosing is paid. Sometimes I make them call my phone and grovel. This part is hilarious when I visit friends houses, because I put it on speaker phone. This often happens with bathroom control. I make them hold it until they are about to burst or other things (keep in mind I make them drink lots of water every 2 hours through out the FULL day.) For bathroom control, they pay a set amount for number one, but then it's more for a number two...LOL

Enjoy stories, particularly ones that I feel I could utilize. I like the idea of having a little diary section (on top of what's expected) for those who wish to do so. A lot of the time though, they view it as "work" or they just can't because of a language barrier or them just having trouble with writing.

What types of experiences have you had in FinDom? You said she made you wait 10 days, so you obviously have a few experiences...

Crasdo · « **Reply #6 on:** July 15, 2015, 01:53:14 AM »

Yeah, four days isn't that long, but it's a start, and it really only takes two days or so to start to feel way more submissive to women! But trust me, I am on edge enough as it is!

That sounds so pathetic, not only is cumming a privilege that needs to be paid for, but begging to cum without even knowing if permission will be granted is a privilege that must be paid for too! That's about as pathetic as it gets, and the idea turns me on, but hurts me at the same time! And a bunch of girls laughing? Do they get a say in deciding if you give permission?

The bathroom control just sounds terrible, to be honest I think I'm really not interested in that.

I have no experiences with Findom. I've met a few online keyholders through various websites, but it was all free and just for fun ("fun"), and nothing ever lasted very long. But I tried to compensate my holders with stories of my feelings, fantasies, or sometimes even non-kink things if we had mutual interests. Unfortunately, the unpaid Dommes often lose interest and I've decided to come here to find not only a longer-term Domme, but to experience the submission of paying for it, and to really make my Domme happy. There's a big difference between being a woman's two-week plaything, and actually being long-term controlled, paying for the privilege to beg to cum, maybe even to just be denied because it makes her happy.

What are your experiences with chastity? How long do your typical slaves have to wait? What's your record?

MistressBella · « **Reply #7 on:** July 18, 2015, 10:53:34 PM »

Fucking pathetic, indeed! Absolutely hilarious! The slaves both love it and hate it when I laugh at their misery, as they're groveling. Quite entertaining...lol And yes, the "My friends" aspect is pretty funny, especially as one is laughing (quite hard actually) and the other is commenting on how disgusting or weird they are...lol They aren't always girls, as I have guy friends as well....lolol Pretty humiliating at times.

We've bantered back and forth about granting permission, but usually what happens is making them do a unforeseen task first before granting it... The "Friend" aspect doesn't happen that often, but it does happen, nonetheless. However in saying that, there are times when my partner in crime (boyfriend) is definitely around and he hears all and sees most...lol

I was doing a Skype session one time with a slave that was into Scat, ABDL, Consenusal Blackmail ~Hardcore I might add~ along with many other different things, and Nigel (the slave) could hear my boyfriend. He was feeling so humiliated because there he was naked, with his fully soiled diaper on (or nappy as he called it), had his gross pacifier in his mouth (that he just had in his dirty ass), crying his bloody head off because I was making him do things that he wanted forced.... it wasn't pretty so don't ask unless you REALLY want the answers...lol

My boyfriend was watching. Nigel knew it. He could hear him almost gagging, while hearing me laughing my bloody head off. The more he begged, the harder I laughed. The harder I laughed, the harder he cried and begged, but yet, Nigel LOVED it.

Nigel loved the bathroom control. That was set for once a week. I called it "Weeing Wednesdays". He was always up for a challenge, and he would get them

He'd text me, call me and Skype me, as well as emailing me, etc. We'd even send things through the mail to each other. I must say, as gross and disgusting as he was, he was A LOT of fun. LOVED it, but had nightmares at the same time...LOL

Every slave/client I have or had is different. Not ONE is the same, and therefore, I set it as such. I have the same personality, however the description of what I get them to do is different. There are some similarities with SOME things, but not all. The harder stuff is different for each one.

I like both long term and temporary, as variety is great. Getting to know each and every person who comes and goes is a privilege and allows me the opportunity to become more knowledgeable about what I can do for people, despite how strange it is. I thoroughly enjoy it.

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MistressC · « **Reply #9 on:** May 06, 2016, 11:07:48 AM »

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Miss.VK · « **Reply #10 on:** May 18, 2016, 07:59:02 PM »

You should try and message me littlebitch, I might keep contacts with you during my days and keep you as a slave which you are.

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pleasemissviv · « **Reply #11 on:** May 26, 2016, 01:36:03 PM »

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apricot · « **Reply #12 on:** July 19, 2016, 04:36:23 PM »

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