I'm new to findom and trying to understand something from the submissive side.

Receiving money is obviously part of financial domination, but I'm much more curious about the psychology behind it.

What turns sending money into submission for you rather than simply paying or buying something?
Is it being told when to send? Having rules? Anticipation? Giving up control? Earning your Domme's attention? Consequences? Or is it something completely different?
And for those who've experienced different Dommes—what separates a Domme who genuinely gets inside your head from someone who simply says, "Pay me"?

I'm developing my own style, and I'd rather understand the dynamic than imitate what everyone else is doing.

Subs, educate me. What actually makes you want to submit financially? 💋