I am in a 24/7 D/s relationship. I moved in 2 1/2 years ago and while we were friends prior, I really didn't know that she was a Domme.
Our relationship is platonic.
In the first year she quickly established that I was her sub and we lived life together but she will not be questioned on her decisions. That year was rocky because while I enjoy submitting, it is not my nature. We had some major battles and I had to accept that I was her subordinate. It's still a struggle at times but she broke me down that first year.
About a year and a half ago she suggested she take over all the finances. Neither of us had considered Findom, in fact, from my knowledge of the topic I could not understand why a sub would just give away their hard earned money.
I won't cover all the details on our journey in my intro, but suffice to say we both discovered an affinity for Findom. I make pretty good income and most of it goes to her.
I'll end this intro by saying that for me Findom equates to a type of bondage. The feeling of losing control is my trigger. Findom has become a big part of our relationship and it is truly a win/win for us both.
Isn't it great discovering something you didn't know about yourself? ;)
A perfect example of making the dynamic work between you and, as a result, you are discovering more about yourself that perhaps would have stayed hidden otherwise.
I wish you well on your journey together!
Or not ;)